Devotional: “The Mirror of Self”

Scripture Reading: “For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud…” (2 Timothy 3:2)

Who is a Narcissist?

A narcissist is someone who is excessively self-centered, craves admiration, and often lacks empathy for others. They may manipulate situations to maintain control, dismiss the feelings of those around them, and struggle to admit fault. In essence, their world revolves around themselves.

Narcissism is not new. The Bible warns us about people who are “lovers of themselves.” King Saul is a striking example. When David was praised for his victories, Saul’s pride turned into jealousy and rage (1 Samuel 18:6–9). His need for admiration blinded him to God’s plan and poisoned his relationships.  

Another example is the Pharisees, who loved the praise of men more than the praise of God (John 12:43). Their self-focus kept them from recognizing Jesus as the Messiah.  

But Scripture also reminds us that pride leads to destruction (Proverbs 16:18), while humility brings grace (James 4:6).  

Reflection:  

When faced with narcissism—whether in ourselves or others—we are called to fix our eyes not on human approval but on Christ. He modeled humility by washing His disciples’ feet (John 13:12–15) and by laying down His life for us.  

How to Live with a Narcissist (Biblical Wisdom)

Living with a narcissist can be draining, but the Bible offers guidance:

- Set Boundaries with Wisdom: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” (Proverbs 4:23)  

  Protect your emotional and spiritual health. Boundaries are not unloving; they are necessary.

- Respond with Grace, Not Bitterness: “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” (Romans 12:21)  

  Their behavior may provoke anger, but Christ calls us to respond with patience and kindness.

- Pray for Them: “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” (Matthew 5:44)  

  Prayer softens your heart and invites God to work in theirs.

- Anchor Your Identity in Christ: “You are a chosen people, a royal priesthood…” (1 Peter 2:9)  

  Don’t let their manipulation define your worth. Your value comes from God, not human approval.

- Seek Support: Even Moses needed Aaron and Hur to hold up his hands (Exodus 17:12). Surround yourself with godly community for strength.

Closing Prayer

“Lord, give me wisdom to walk in love without losing myself. Teach me to set boundaries with grace, to forgive without enabling, and to reflect Your humility in the face of pride. May my life be a testimony that Your strength is made perfect in weakness. Amen.”